The Mommy Revolution is our way of giving voice to something we see in our lives and the lives of so many women we know: the belief that we can be great moms without losing sight of who we are as people. From where we stand, the conversations and categories that used to define the boundaries of motherhood are no longer relevant. Instead, today’s mothers are comfortable forging lives that defy categories. We piece together work that fits our gifts and our families. We expect and encourage the participation of our children’s fathers. We trust our instincts—along with our faith, worldview, and brains!–to figure out what’s best for our kids. We crave connections with people who’s lives are different from ours. We want our children to become whoever they were created to become and have no desire to shape them according to someone else’s mold. We struggle and triumph, sometimes in the same five minute stretch.
We have been friends for nearly 10 years and we have spent most of those years laughing. We have been always hoped for the chance to collaborate on a project and nothing excites us more than the Mommy Revolution. We hope you’ll join this revolution and help us be the voice of a new kind of motherhood. Chime in, contribute, disagree, inspire each other. We can’t wait to hear what you have to say.
The Revolutionary Manifesto:
We believe that:
- Both mothers and children should thrive in the parent/child relationship.
- A women doesn’t stop having dreams when she starts raising children.
- Women need emotional support from other women.
- Mothers can do anything we want to, but we don’t have to do everything well.
- There is something good to found even in the most difficult parenting stage.
- Motherhood is not as all-important as we think it is. We are one of the many factors that shape our children. We need to be the best moms we can be while recognizing that we are not the center of the universe.
- Parenting is collaborative, not competitive. None of us can—or should—do it alone.
- Life is not all about you, but it’s not all about your kids, either.
- Only mothers get to define what our motherhood looks like.
- Motherhood changes who we are, but it doesn’t define who we are.
- There is more than one way to parent well.
- Motherhood is just part of a whole and integrated life.
- A good mom provides food, shelter, clothing, love, support, encouragement, and all the honesty, wisdom and kindness she can. Everything else—rides the to mall, attendance at soccer games, participation in endless rounds of Pretty Pretty Princess—is gravy.
We want to create a culture of motherhood in which:
- Women make decisions that feel right for us and our families.
- Good fathers are part of the parenting equation. That means they get credit for the work they do and the unique presence they have in the lives of our children. It means we stop believing they can’t parent as well as we can. Being revolutionary moms means making room for revolutionary dads.
- Women support each other instead of critique each other.
- The fact that we have children doesn’t lead to assumptions about we are or what we do.
- Our decisions are driven by the emotional and physical well-being of every member of the family–not just the kids and not just the parents.
- Our children are one of the many gifts we give to the world.
- It’s okay to miss the way we lived before we had children.
- Women are encouraged to figure out what we are passionate about and supported by our families and friends as we live out those passions.