For the three of you who read our pre-Christmas post I will be repeating myself here, but for the rest of you who apparently found celebrating with family, eagerly anticipating the birth of Christ to be more important than The Mommy Revolution, this’ll be some fun news.
This Tuesday (Jan. 13), Carla and I will be on Moody Radio’s Midday Connection at noon (CST). The Revolution has made it to Moody, people. This is big. You need to listen. You need to call in. And then you’ll need to report back to us.
But anyway, we thought in honor of our big, national Revolutionary radio debut, we really ought to officially publish the core values that the Mommy Revolution holds near and dear.
Up until this point, we’ve sort of alluded to them, but never really outlined them. Well, we outlined them many months ago at La Spiaza coffee shop in Wheaton, Illinois, while simultaneously irritating patrons because we kept switching tables as ones with better access to outlets became available. But, we’ve never made them public.
So, without further ado, here they are. What the Mommy Revolution is all about and what we believe—at least about motherhood. We want to know what you believe, too–about what it means to be a mom, about what you wish could be different, about your visions of motherhood. So please throw in some of your revolutionary ideas as well.
We believe that:
- Both mothers and children should thrive in the parent/child relationship.
- A women doesn’t stop having dreams when she starts raising children.
- Women need emotional support from other women.
- Mothers can do anything we want to, but we don’t have to do everything well.
- There is something good to be found even in the most difficult parenting stages.
- Motherhood is not as all-important as we think it is. We are one of the many factors that shape our children. We need to be the best moms we can be while recognizing that we are not the centers of the universe.
- Parenting is collaborative, not competitive. None of us can—or should—do it alone.
- Life is not all about you, but it’s not all about your kids, either.
- Only mothers get to define what our motherhood looks like.
- Motherhood changes who we are, but it doesn’t define who we are.
- There is more than one way to parent well.
- Motherhood is just part of a whole and integrated life.
- A good mom provides food, shelter, clothing, love, support, encouragement, and all the honesty, wisdom, and kindness she can. Everything else—rides the to mall, attendance at soccer games, participation in endless rounds of Pretty Pretty Princess—is gravy.
We want to create a culture of motherhood in which:
- Women make decisions that feel right for us and our families.
- Good fathers are part of the parenting equation. That means they get credit for the work they do and the unique presence they have in the lives of our children. It means we stop believing they can’t parent as well as we can. Being revolutionary moms means making room for revolutionary dads.
- Women support each other instead of critique each other.
- The fact that we have children doesn’t lead to assumptions about who we are or what we do.
- Our decisions are driven by the emotional and physical well-being of every member of the family–not just the kids and not just the parents.
- Our children are one of the many gifts we give to the world.
- It’s okay to miss the way we lived before we had children.
- Women are encouraged to figure out what we are passionate about and supported by our families and friends as we live out those passions.
Whatcha think? Agree? Disagree? Worried for our very souls? Please discuss.